Maryannaville™

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*What I’ve learned so far is that I can love a person until the cows come home yet once I lose respect for the one I love, it’s all over with but the shoutin’. Once that occurs, trying to like him or her is totally impossible because then I have issues of dislike and discontentment. Moreover, I’ll not be played as an idiot nor will I be anyone’s sychophant, let me make those points clear right now. Learning what one will accept and not accept is a process for all involved if they’re honest enough with themselves.

On a personal note, I can love most anyone. Loving is easy, yet the ability to love at that capacity has taken years of personal work. You see, whether you can acknowledge that you have baggage from the past is on you but let me fill you in on something. Everyone has excess baggage and if it isn’t addressed, it becomes too heavy to carry plus it interferes with relationships in the here and now. Why? It is due to having unsettled business with one’s life’s experiences. Moreover, the real challenge in relationships is about how to enjoy a person for how he or she presents him or herself, albeit as it may. Wearing a mask and going along with general niceties in order to be accepted or even liked is deceptive. Moreover, that is another thing altogether–especially if relational trust has been recklessly and foolishly destroyed, more so on a whim without further thought given to that whim as to how the partner will be effected. Doing so is very selfish, unkind, and nothing a genuinely caring person would do to another, that is, if he or she had a conscience at all.

Additionally, since I’ve chosen to use myself as an example here, let me also tell you that anybody can take advantage of my good sense of humor once, after that, try it again and you’re history. My sense of humor becomes depleted quickly in that sense. I’m nobody’s clown but a real caring and feeling human being who laughs when I’m happy and cries when I’m saddened. Emotionally healthy people are comfortable in their own skin. We respond like that on a daily basis. On the same hand, have you ever seenn the dandruff commercial on TV that speaks about not having a second chance at a first impression? The message behind that commercial applies. For some, can be the proverbial straw that broke the camels back if you’re not real careful. And when that happens to me, I promise you, one can anticipate an a confrontation by me and it won’t be pleasant, either. My reaction to it is obvious to a blind person, I’m that clear in my thoughts and speech. Additionally, you won’t need to worry about me because when I’m through, I’ll be the first one making the exit at the first fork in the road. You see, it’s my attitude that I have more fun things to be doing than contending with foolios who don’t have a grip on how to manage personal relationships. I can also smell a game player from far away.
Sure, parting ways will cause emotional injury but that will heal, in time. Soon, another will be filling the role of a responsible, dependable, and altruistic partner. That’s how relationships work. It doesn’t matter what type of relationship it is.

For those who don’t connect the dots very easily, the answer to my blithering is in #2 and briefly mentioned again at #7 to the article in the hot link provided. Both refer to character. What kind of character are you? Are you trustworthy and genuine? Are you loyal and/or authentic ? Or, are you a shady, shyster type of character?

Whomever or whatever it is that you stand for, my friend, is your journey, not mine, so do as you will. I have my own path to walk. When you realize that it’s up to you to make that decision then leave me out of your doings and start walking the talk. I have greater fields to plow. I am single and never alone, moreover, life is good. I’m a happy camper and hope that you learn how to become one yourself.

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Originally posted 2007-11-17 16:59:00. Republished by Blog Post Promoter