If you are going to be at work on the day of the Inauguration and your employer won’t provide the day off, here’s some great news. Hulu will be live streaming the ceremony that you can watch when you have time. Check with www.Hulu.com.
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Israel Should Stop the War and Let Us Enjoy the Inauguration [Juan Cole]
Robbie Maddison took over the informal motorcycle jumping crown that Evel Knievel once held. Robbie and his 250 Yamaha leaped a world-record of 322 feet, seven inches in Las Vegas this past New Years Eve. Robbie’s feat completely obliterated previous Guinness’ World Record of 300 feet by Trigger Gumm. Gumm drew rave reviews within the motoring circles.
You will want to view both videos.
ESPN’s video is heart stopping yet watch the same jump but with different angles used, here.
Sample Situation: This commandment is designed to hide family secrets. If you saw dad stagger and fall down the basement steps because he was drunk, you can’t tell the truth. instead, reality must be interpreted into an acceptable fantasy. “Daddy wasn’t drunk; he simply lost his balance and tripped. Poor Daddy.” Application: Even if you see it, it’s not real. You must have made a mistake. Therefore, reinterpret what you saw to make it nice and respectable. If you don’t, people will think you’re and we’re all crazy. We wouldn’t want them to think that now, would we? Motto: Always believe the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the alcoholic truth. The Second Commandment: Sample Situation: Application: You don’t really know what’s true. Either your father loves you or he hates you. Since you never know for sure, you’ll never be quite sure if others really mean what they say since those you loved most only spoke in mixed messages. They sounded good, but you couldn’t trust them. Motto: Avoid people and relationships. It’s the safe thing to do.
Thou shalt always send mixed messages, especially when it concerns relationships.
A dominating father tells his child, “I love you. Now beat it and leave me alone.”
The Third Commandment:
Thou shalt be an adult.
Sample Situation: Children were made to take care of their parents emotionally, physically, or sexually and to meet their parents’ “childish” needs for power, attention, sex, and belonging. The children submitted to avoid physical and emotional abandonment by their parents. Children in these environments can’t really remember a “childhood.” For this reason, children were always expected to be adults.
Application: Being child-like and spontaneous is irresponsible and bad. You must act like an adult at all times and be responsible, even if you’re only five years old.
Motto: There’s no such thing as child’s play. It’s all serious stuff.
The Fourth Commandment:
Thou shalt keep secrets from others.
Sample Situation: Daddy has a “secret” that only he and his little girl know. Of course, she can’t tell Mommy. If she does, Daddy will hurt you and Mommy might leave and never come back.
Application: A child’s most important duty is to protect the image of their parents and family in the community. Watch what you say and be careful not to act funny around other people either. After all, as family we have to protect each other. If you stay quiet, you’re loyal. If you can’t, we won’t love you.
Motto: To really love someone is to show loyalty by protecting their “secrets” at all costs.
The Fifth Commandment:
Thou shalt protect family secrets.
Sample Situation: A member of the family commits suicide. Since this is not acceptable to discuss even in the family, all pictures, memorabilia, and anything else which would indicate that this family member had ever lived here must be discarded. After all, no one in our family would commit suicide, would they???
Application: Our family doesn’t have any problems, does it? Even if we did, we don’t have to discuss or deal with them. After all, they’re not that important. We can simply deny their existence so that we don’t have to deal with the grief.
Motto: Life’s too painful to have to deal with the pain and the problems. Just ignore them, they’ll go away.
The Sixth Commandment:
Thou shalt not feel.
Sample Situation: A child cries because her best friend is moving away. “You shouldn’t feel like that. Stop crying!” yells her mother angrily.
Application: Since any display of emotion might betray the family secrets that all is not perfect, all emotions must be repressed and numbed. After all, we’re a normal family. We’re not like other people who get angry, sad, or afraid.
Motto: Be respectable. After all, respectable people never show their emotions or pain..
The Seventh Commandment:
Thou shalt allow your boundaries to be violated, especially by those who “love” you.
Sample Situation: A child trying to accomplish a task continues to persist and work on it, hoping to gain a sense of accomplishment and approval. “Don’t be so stubborn!” mommy says. “Just give up. There’ s more important things than that to be done! Now put that stuff away and clean the house so that mommy knows you love her.”
Lesson Learned: Anything you want is not worth protecting. Only those you love can tell you what is important and what’s not. Quit thinking for yourself and just do what makes everyone else happy..
Motto: Because others are more valuable than you, you don’t have the right to maintain your own boundaries or to make decisions.
The Seventh Commandment:
Thou shalt be hyper-vigilant
Sample Situation: A child is constantly reminded how dangerous the world is. People can’t be trusted either. Therefore, stay aloof, don’t get too close to anybody.
Lesson Learned: The only way to be safe in this world is to be careful and insulate yourself from others. Be careful. Always be on guard They might hurt you. If you need help, don’t ask for their help. Do it yourself.
Motto: Always be on your guard. The wise person is always over prepared and distrustful of everyone and everything.
The Eighth Commandments:
Thou shalt not let anyone do anything else for you. Do it all yourself.
Sample Situation: Parents continually remind the child that no one is to be trusted. If they do something for you, they’re doing it to manipulate you.
Lesson Learned: Stay aloof and don’t make friends with anybody. After all, if you get too close, they’ll use, hurt and abuse you. And remember this: nobody does anything for anyone unless they want something from you.
Motto: Do everything yourself.
The Ninth Commandment:
Thou shalt be perfect
Sample Situation: “Just because you got all ‘A’s on your report card doesn’t mean that you couldn’t have done better. You’re lazy. Now get to work and let’s see you get some more ‘A+’s'!”
Lesson Learned: If it’s not perfect, people won’t love you. No matter how good it is, it’s never good enough…but keep trying!
Motto: You’re only as good as your performance and that’s still not good enough!
The Tenth Commandment:
Thou shalt not forgive yourself or others.
Sample Situation: “You’re always in my way, child! Why do you keep asking me to play with you? Don’t you know I played with you last year? Wasn’t that enough?! You ought to be ashamed of yourself! Go to your room. Don’t bother me.”
Lesson Learned: The only way I can be forgiven and loved is if I can earn it by being perfect. The guiltier I feel, the harder I must work to gain other’s approval. If I make any mistakes, even a small one, they’ll reject me or think I’m incompetent or worthless. I’m afraid I will make a mistake, I know I will, I feel so guilty. Therefore, even if I think I can do it, I won’t. After all, I could make a mistake and then what would I do? Oh, I could never go back and say I’m sorry!
Motto: Since Jesus’ doesn’t forgive me, I can’t forgive you either.
The Ten Commandments Of Dysfunctional Families:
A Summary
The First And Great Commandment Is This:
The Second Is Like Unto It:
Written by: Thomas F. Fischer, M.Div., M.S.A. Shhhhhhhhhh, don’t talk about the elephant in the livingroom…
This post was set to post at this time. It’s one of the advantages of having kept “old blogger.”
Relationship Goals: Recognizing 7 Signs of Addictive Relationships
1. Dishonesty: Neither Sam nor Debbie talks about who they are or what’s really bothering them. They lie about what they want. This turns communication into an addictive relationship, which aren’t healthy relationship goals.
2. Unrealistic expectations: Both Sam and Debbie think the other will solve their self-esteem, body image, family, and existential problems. They believe the “right relationship” will make everything better. Yet, they’re in a disastrous addictive relationship, which won’t help them achieve their relationship goals.
3. Instant gratification: Sam expects Debbie to be there for him whenever he needs her; he needs her to make him happy immediately. He’s using her to make him feel good, and isn’t relating to her as a partner or even a human being. She’s a like drug that revolves around addictive relationships.
4. Compulsive control: Debbie has to act a certain way, or Sam will threaten to leave her. Both feel pressure to stay in this addictive relationship; neither feel like they’re together voluntarily. Neither are achieving their relationship goals.
5. Lack of trust: Neither partner trusts the other to be there when the chips are down. They don’t believe the other really loves them, and they don’t believe genuine caring or liking exists. At some level they know they’re not in a healthy relationship – but they may not know about addictive relationships.
6. Social isolation: Nobody else is invited into their relationship – not friends, family, or work acquaintances. People in addictive relationships want to be left alone, and may feel unprepared to achieve their relationship goals.
7. Cycle of pain: Sam and Debbie are trapped in a cycle of pleasure, pain, disillusionment, blaming, and reconnection. The cycle repeats itself until one partner breaks free of the addictive relationship to achieve healthier relationship goals.
Addictive relationships can change, if both partners are self-aware and are willing to do what it takes. In some cases an objective viewpoint (such as counseling) helps; other times, self-control and mutual accountability are all that’s needed to turn addictive relationships around.
*Note:
The circus we had here for too many years has safely arrived at its next stop. Moreover, it is with great hope that it will keep moving onward if and when its lease expires. We have other plans and don’t want it here taking up our resources anymore. More importantly is now that it’s well on its way, we have plenty of distance between us. Overall, the lesson in futility was a simple reminder that “it happens.” The lesson was a useful one. Its warrant became indicative that we needed to reevaluate our life’s function, purpose and goals and then not allow anyone or anything to disrupt said plans.
The year 2009 has been projected to fulfill greater hopes, higher expectations along with realistic dreams easily measurable with integrity, viability and culpability. The potential seen is endless. A plan is set to renovate immediately. We’re expecting a healthy R.O.I. instead of simply hoping that it works out well. Furthermore, this year is the year where we will see the law of reciprocity returned.
You maybe wanting to know more about this circus we mentioned and overall, there is nothing to say about it other than the interest we vested. what appeared to be a good thing turned into a major nightmare in more ways than one. As the ole saying goes, “it happened” although it was not anticipated by either party. The great news is that it has finally come to an end. We have learned very much from the experience and we are wiser because of it. On the same note, it is projected that in less than a month’s time we will be running full bore and at great lengths at a time. Our goals are in place and we are ready, willing and more able to reach the brass ring, if you will. We are fully determined to achieve our projected goals with pleasurably gainful insights, new friends alongside the daily joy of personal growth, achievement and rewards.
If you don’t get it, the image is a tongue in cheek.
Pay no attention to our yiddish speaking visitor, mosser. He’s a just another one of those really “fun” guys roaming the internet.
Whomever inspired Don in his first tune of 2009, I have to say that she’s one very lucky woman. ~:o) [listen to the incredibly high amount of energy backing his words. I’m totally convinced. Don humbly replied that it manifested from his imagination.” (Who am I to argue?)
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